Triplevowel's Two Cents

This Weekend In Pictures

2011-04-27T05:02:00.000-05:00

So I get alot of people asking me "Dani, what's going on in LA? What you been up to?" I usually just say working for the most part, because I can never think of anything at the time. But I do go out occasionally...I'm not a total lame. So I decided to try to document in pictures the randomness of my weekends or my life for that matter, so everyone can see "what I'm up to". I'm going to include last Thursday this time, because that was the Prince concert. Which was in one word...AMAZING!!!

The Stage

Someone is just a little excited!

This guy just walked up and gave my roomate this necklace...I was a lil jealous!

Me and the roomie Nikki.

In the parking lot trying to find the car!

After the concert went to Denny's (it was late) and ate a bunch of crap we had no business eating. And for the record their were three of us...just didn't get a picture of Helen.

Didn't get home to like 2:30 am...sleep 3:00 am...up for work at 6:00 am! I'm a soldier!!! Needless to say I went straight to sleep after work.

More Pics....(Saturday)

2011-04-27T05:01:00.000-05:00

Friday was work and then sleep so I'll skip to Saturday. Saturday I went to church! I purposely went to church the previous week just so folk wont be like I just come to church on Christmas and Easter! Here is my Ebony Fashion Fair pictorial! I was cleaner than the board of health if I do say so myself!

After church, went to the Korean market and out for sushi with Nikki...

...and Helen (Cash Only Chloe in this pic)

More Pics...(Sunday)

2011-04-27T05:00:00.000-05:00

Slept in on Sunday...it was beautiful! Eventually got up and went to brunch with Helen at Caffe Village, this Korean spot in K-Town.

Had this dish called ddukbokki...I can't pronounce it, but it was good!

Painted my nails this turqoise blue color...not my usual color spectrum, but I'm really feeling it! What yall think?

Changed the background on my Blackberry to this!!! I've contracted Yellow fever!!! Loving the Asian boyz lately. Problem is when I look at my phone I'm tempted to lick the screen! His name is Lee Min Ho...I love he!

Tuesday Trumfoolery

2011-04-26T06:00:00.004-05:00

Today's trumfoolery is brought to us by Ms. Joanne Prada on her show "The Road To Glory". In this episode Joanne is interviewing her neighbor Gayle, who thinks Jesus is try to run her out of her house! True tea!!! This video was brought to my attention by my favorite cuteness Ken via FB. So everybody say thanks Ken!

For more trumfoolery from Ms. Prada visit her YouTube channel at http://www.youtube.com/user/joanneprada

5 Questions

2011-04-26T06:00:00.003-05:00

1. What are you most looking forward to doing this summer?

2. Are you doing what you love for a living?

3. Have you ever committed an act of vandalism to the property of an ex boyfriend/girlfriend?

4. What is the best dish you can cook...from scratch? No Top Ramen, Rice A Roni or Zatarains!!!

5. Did you miss me?! (Varnell Hill voice)

A Whole Lotta Random

2011-04-26T06:00:00.002-05:00

1. My sister is pregnant...hope it's a girl!!!

2. Blogging is HARD!!! Especially when the content is all yours and not just reporting random celebrity foolishness. My brain hurts!

3. I've officially given up TV (for now)...waiting for True Blood to return!

4. Despite living on the smallest wages I've ever made, I'm pretty content.

5. I'm thinking about cutting my hair. I need a change! Actually I wanna revamp my entire look!

6. I'd like to set on fire whoever it was who invented the cubicle!!!

7. Just discovered Radiohead...all late and thangs!!!

8. Kpop is the future...get into it!!!

9. I'm still just as random as you remember.

Yada, Yada, Yada...

2011-04-26T06:00:00.001-05:00

And in who gives a rat's ass news...I'm back!!! You don't seem all that impressed. I know, I've had more comebacks than a hookers esophagus! But I told you I'm a lazy blogger so deal with it! I know it's been a while so let me catch you up. My life for the passed 9 months in a nutshell. Moved to LA...moved in with a friend...found a job...moved away from friend into my own apartment...lost job...moved to downtown LA with another friend...found temp job (which I detest...I'll elaborate later)...intersperse whole a lotta random ish and there you have it!!! I'll give you more details as we go along. I'm pacing myself...don't wanna tire myself on my first day back!

Never Too Late

2010-06-22T00:34:00.002-05:00

I'm writing this blog post an hour and a half away from it being my birthday! Yay me!!! So most of you know I moved to LA a few months back. And I said I'd keep you posted on my progress. Yeah...Well about that...LOL! I've been busy...for real! So let me catch you up on what's going on with me.

First I get to LA...I chill and try to adjust to my new surroundings for the first to weeks. I unpack and unwind, and just chill with the new roomie. (I'll save all my roomate horror stories for another post). After my little welcome to LA vacation, I start my job hunt! And honestly, all I can say is that I am blessed when I say that I found a job in less than 2 months of be in Los Angeles. Work is good...kinda...had some issues with my supervisor. And by issues I mean, that lady is crazy! I guess she doesn't like me, which is a big departure from my last job. My last supervisor LOVED me, and not just because she's my mother. So I try to stay as polite and professional as I can which is much harder said than done. I think God is giving me a refresher course in humility. And it's oh so hard being humble in the face of great ignorance! I have a few really cool coworkers and that makes it bearable.

My circle of friends is still rather small, consisting of one coworker, my roomate, and a friend from highschool who moved to LA a few months before I did. I don't really like alot of people in general and I find that some of the people in LA are very...LA. Meaning they're only looking out for themselves and only seem interested in you if you have something they want. And I just don't operate that way. So I keep my circle small...quality not quantity. LA is one of the most random cities I've ever been to, much less lived in. Like one minute you're overwhelmed by the sheer number of homeless people and they are everywhere, and the next minute I'm driving passed this fitness center and see Lionel Richie on the elliptical machine (true story). I couldn't make up half of the things I've seen here.

And so my latest news is that I moved into my new apartment yesterday. Loving it, and it's only a half a block up from my former residence. I'm still going to save my roomate stories for later, but I will say this. Two GROWN ASS women cannot live together and leave it at that.

I know this blog post has been a little late, but I'll try not to let so much time pass between posts. LOL...but you've heard that before.

The Countdown

2010-01-20T21:11:00.003-06:00

Okay I made the decision, bought my ticket, gave my two weeks notice, and informed all the important people in my life regarding my decision. I did all of that yesterday…so why am I on the verge of a panic attack today? They say change is good, but I’m bout to have an anxiety attack. Most of my friends and readers of my blog already know that I decided that I was going to move to LA this year. So yesterday I bought my one-way plane ticket and made it official. I leave in 2 weeks. Even typing “2 weeks” is making my hands clammy.

When I first decided that I would move, I thought it was going to be a fairly easy process. Pack clothes, find job, already have a place to stay so that was done, so just get up and go. But I began to realize that it wasn’t quite that simple. I’d been delaying and pushing back my moving date for some months now. So I decided to just push myself and buy the ticket so it will force my to just do it! And on came the panic!!!

So what am I afraid of? I’m asking myself that question as I type. I guess I’m afraid of change. My life, although not exactly what I want, is comfortable. Maybe comfortable is the wrong word…it implies that I’m content. I’m far from content. It’s just what I’m used to and that has made me complacent. I’m used to my mother paying my car insurance, and getting paid every Friday, and having a certain amount of money to spend as I please, and a job that is fairly comfortable and easy. Oooo I just had an epiphany!!!! My life lacks challenge. It’s been so easy for so long that I’m afraid that I’m not prepared for when it gets hard. I crave the challenge, because life without it is completely unfulfilling, but failing scares me. What if it takes me a while to find a job? What if my car goes out? What if my roommate and I don’t get along? These “what ifs” are driving my anxiety. I know I need to go out on faith and know that my father will never leave me nor forsake me, but that is proving a little easier said than done.

I kind of feel better now that it’s out! *Deep breath* Well this is just the first 24 hours…and I think the panic is just about run its course. Now I have to do the groundwork…like figuring out how to get my Imelda Marcos collection of shoes packed.

So follow me on my journey from Mid West Diva to West Coast Darling. The countdown begins now. I leave for LA Feb. 5th. Good or bad…I’ll keep you posted!

Resolutions

2010-01-20T19:34:00.002-06:00

January 1, 2009 marked a milestone in my life. It was the first year in my 33 years of existence that I was able to make a resolution and stick to it. I guess it was no coincidence that it was also the first year that I decided not to make the same old resolutions, like lose weight, quit cussing, spend more time with my family, and so on and so forth. You know...the same old crap that you end up breaking before the month is out. Back to eating Whoppers, and cussing out your family by the 15Th of January! So last year I decided that I would do something different, and make a resolution that was fun, something I could enjoy instead of some self-sacrifice on my part. I figured my life was full of self-sacrifice already, so why pressure myself into more, especially when I knew I'd never keep any of them. Damn it...I like food, and cussing and having time away from my family. Which brings me to my resolution for 09. I decided that I was going to take a trip somewhere every month of that year. I started in Los Angeles in January, and that year I visited Memphis, Little Rock, Tunica, Atlanta, New York, New Jersey, Las Vegas and I returned to LA two more times. I had a freaking blast!!! Who said resolutions had to be hard? Or you have to give up something? All a resolution is is a decision to do something differently that you had not been doing before. Why can't that be something fun or enjoyable? Maybe you'd be more committed to doing it if it was. Hey...life is full of the crap we have to do, the hard decisions we have to make, and personal sacrifices. Make your resolution be your gift to yourself for the New Year. Resolve to be good to you this year!!!!

Throwback Thursday Video

2009-05-07T13:27:00.003-05:00

I just discovered this little gem of a video a couple of weeks ago. Everyone who knows me know that I am a total Prince stan. So this video of Prince on the Muppet Show has basically made my whole month!!! Added bonus...Gonzo in a bustier!

Prince -The Muppets Show*** -

More Random Ish

2009-05-07T12:55:00.002-05:00

1. I don't usually make it a practice to cuss out old people, but she got one more smart ass comment before she gets it.

2. Almost done cleaning up my spring cleaning mess. Yeah...It was an ordeal!!!

3. When did nipple rings become cute? I don't get it.

4. Still can't find my brown eel skin clutch. I'm ready to blow some shit up now!

5. Don't it seem like American Idol contestansts sing better after they're kicked off? Case in point...Allison Iraheta. She sung her face off last nite!

6. Some days I feel like I'm online too much and that I need to read a book or something.

7. Going back to LA at the end of the month. Super Excited!!!!

8. Scared my friend Jay this week. Still laughing!

9. I'm sick of my job...just can't figure out what I want to do next.

10.I need to make an appointment with my therapist...a bitch is just teeming with issues!

11.Hoe Strollin Cat Update: Endo is doing a lot better...he's back to strollin the neighborhood at nite. Watching me try to give him his antibiotic was straight comedy. He was not very cooperative.

My Weekend Playlist

2009-05-02T03:26:00.007-05:00

These are the songs on heavy rotation for me this weekend...I'm working...so my playlist is a lil on the melancholy bordering on the hopeful side.

Maxwell - New Music - More Music Videos

The Man Who Cant Be Moved - Imeem Edition - The Script

My Top 5 - Pet Peeves

2009-05-02T03:04:00.005-05:00

I'm one of those people who are easily annoyed... crying babies, rude food service workers, overzealous bill collectors, sarcastic children, dirty nails, run over shoes, Beyonce. All seems to work my nerves. So this is just a small sample of my much greater, much longer pet peeve list. What's yours?

5. If you borrow something from someone like an article of clothing for a specific event, you can't just put that item in your rotation. Wear it, clean it and return it!!!

4. Maintaining eye contact while having a conversation is polite, however, it is not necessary while driving. In fact, it's very scary for your passengers.

3. If you ask someone to watch your child, then you need to return to retrieve your child at the agreed upon time. Don't go and get your nails done when you get off work. No! Come get your banshee!

2. This is for store clerks at department stores. Don't ask me if I need any help as soon as I get in your department. I have'nt had time to need any help. And when I say no, don't just disappear like I'm never going to need help. Better idea is to tell the customer where you'll be if and when they need your assistance.

1. Big girls will understand this one. Saying something negative and then following it with "you have such a pretty face" is not a compliment. Spare me!!

This Makes Me Happy!!!

2009-05-01T03:14:00.014-05:00

Just sharing some of the things that brings a smile to my face!!!

Little Jackie "28 Butts" (Live at SXSW 2008) - Little Jackie

A Whole Lotta Random

2009-04-30T05:52:00.005-05:00

1. I've been spring cleaning for about a week...I'm kinda over it!!! Just wish I hadn't made such a mess. Now I need someone to help me clean up my spring cleaning mess.

2. I'm so sick of the damn swine flu! Not so much the flu, but all these paranoid hypochondriacs I know who think they got it.

3. Scary Statement of the Week: came from the guy about to do my pedicure. "This is my first day...I'm so nervous" Ummmm....inexperience and sharp utensils...not a good idea, but in his defense, he did a pretty okay job.

4. I think I'm having a quarter life crisis.

5. Not paying rent has made me a tad bit lazy. I need to get my work swag back!

7. I'm trying to diet...got so hungry last nite...was tempted to order some overpriced brownies over the internet...called best friend to stage a mini intervention. I didn't order em, but no thanks to her. I think I'm going to order some and send them to her for a little bit of sabotage. She been looking a little too skinny in these last few pictures.

8. Marcus Patrick is so sexy...even his Tweets turn me on!

9. I still can't find my brown eel skin clutch...I'm bout to get a little upset.

10.My cat Endo has been sick...he's on an antibiotic. I think he has a STD. Is that possible? He stays out all times of the nite. I think he hoe strolling!

Throwback Thursday Video

2009-04-30T05:18:00.002-05:00

This weeks throwback video comes from Ginuwine!!! If you were dating in the nineties, then Ginuwine has definitely been the soundtrack for many a late nite rendezvous. He made it cool for R&B male artist to dance again. So before there was Chris Brown or Neyo...there was Ginuwine!

5 Questions

2009-04-30T05:08:00.003-05:00

1. Have you ever stalked anyone? Be honest! This includes the internet.

2. Are you afraid of catching the swine flu?

3. Do you have a YouTube crush? Who?

4. Would your friends describe you as a drama queen?

5. Did you miss me? LOL!!!

So...

2009-04-28T13:04:00.003-05:00

So...I guess you've realized by now that I am a lazy blogger. Some days you're gonna have new post and some days...not so much. Sorry! But in my defense I've been trying to do a little bit of spring cleaning. I'm clearing out the old to make way for the new. And the new is these fabulous pair of patent leather peep toe Ferragamo pumps! Oooo new shoes just makes me happy!!! So I've been clearing out the unused and unwanted things out my wardrobe. I know there is some very deep metaphor about life I can expound on right now, but I'm not feeling all that deep today. Spring cleaning is just spring cleaning for this post. Does anyone else do this? In your attempt to clean up, you make a bigger mess than when you started. So I've been spring cleaning and cleaning up the mess the spring cleaning caused. Now many bloggers would leave you with the impression that all this cleaning is the reason I've not been blogging, but I'm not most bloggers. So let me keep it real! I'm just lazy. Sue me! So...now you know...You follow a lazy blogger!

My Top Five - Diva's

2009-04-15T04:13:00.003-05:00

I was listening to some of my favorite Diva's last nite...you know...a lil Jill, some Erykah...threw in a little bit of Anita! This got me thinking about who are my favorite diva's. So I started making a list of my top 5, which then ballooned into 25. So after careful thought and consideration...I narrowed it down to 10. It was tough, because I love so many genres of music. Certain names you will not see on my list and trust me these omissions are intentional. Some are talented, but they just don't move me. So no MiMi, Brandy, Whitney and for damn sure you won't find no Beyonce. Sorry! So I'll first give you my 6-10.

10. Ledisi
9. Sarah Vaughn
8. Nancy Wilson
7. Anita Baker
6. Sade

And now my Top 5 Diva's

5. Teena Marie- She's a singers singer. She just opens her mouth and makes it seem effortless and amazing. And like all the rest of my Top 5, her voice is unique and immediately recognizable. No one sounds like Teena!

4. Patti Labelle- This one is a given. I'm sure she'd be found in most peoples Top 5. She can sing her face off and isn't afraid to put her everythin into a performance. If the spirit moves her, she'll kick her shoes off or roll around the stage. Love her!

3. Jill Scott- Jill can sing about waking up in the morning and what she ate for breakfast and make it sound good. Griiiiiiitttsss!!!! She can make you feel what she felt. I still wanna meet that damn Rasool! She is the REAL THING!!!

2. Erykah Badu- An amazing voice! Her music is raw and honest and real, and that's something quite rare in today's prepackaged, cookie cutter artist.

1. Phyllis Hyman- For those who know me, this is not a suprise, but Phyllis speaks to me. And when your Diva can do a fucking whistle solo, then maybe I'll reconsider, but until then, Phyllis is the queen!!! Gone too soon.

So who's your top 5?

Making The Band Episode 8 Review

2009-04-10T03:03:00.005-05:00

Making The Band is the best fucking show on TV!!!I love this this trainwreck of a progam. I swear I do! I watch it glued to the screen and calling my best friend during commercials for running commentary. And this weeks episode did not disappoint.

First lets start with Q and the damn text message. Since when does "were moving on with or without you" mean that they trying to kick you out the group? If anything that message says that the decision is yours and either you get with the program or watch the group go on without you. He was so fucking immature here. He's the youngest dude in the group and it shows!

And then Q gone pout like a little bitch!!! I was looking at that mess like "Are you fucking serious?" But this was the kicker... " I don't have any problem with Day26. Day26 has a problem with Q...and I have the text messages to prove it". *Cough* Punk Bitch *Cough*

Okay this is where Q flips the script like ain't shit wrong. When he came in like "why is everyone so upset?" that shit pissed me off, like they just wasn't fighting in the damn lobby like 5 minutes before. THE BITCH ASS QUOTE OF THE WEEK- "I don't have a problem with you guys...what's the problem...you guys are getting mad and slapping your hands...Q doesn't have a problem". This bitchass quote sparked Will to give the realest moment of the whole video. 3:44 - 4:06 is the best...Will get real on Q's ass! But the most insightful part happens when Q accuses the rest of the group of setting him up. What kind of paranoid shit is that? And his lil crying spell and accusing Mike of not taking up from him, like he a fucking little kid!!! I admit...I was ready for somebody to knock Q in his mouth! But when Robert call's Q Aubrey, that was priceless!

So...initially I was'nt a big Dawn fan. When Q just started to actin a fool, I started to think we may be seeing a little Yoko revisited, but this chick was spitting mad knowledge on these fools. You can't argue with experience and this is her expertise. She witnessed a group self destruct from the inside.

Diddy punks them! No more commentary necessary.

OMG I love this show!!! Why do I love this mess so much? I've been thinking about it, and this is what I came up with. This is the Day26/Making the Band allure...they have a homo erotic appeal. I'll explain! Some think that some of the members in the group are gay and initially I was on this gay bandwagon, but I'm over it now. I don't think any of the members are gay. I think we want them to be gay! I know you giving me the side eye! But peep this...watching MTB is like watching gay porn. It's primal, it's aggressive...yet at any moment you think, somebody's going to kiss! Like when Q comes to his senses and comes back in the room and he apologizes to Will and they all crying and thangs, and then they hug! Wouldn't that scene been better if Will just grabbed Q and planted a sloppy wet one on him? I'm just saying! Just think about it. Who watches Making The Band? Women and gay men! And who watches gay porn? Women and gay men! Gotcha thinking don't I? I can't wait to next week! I have'nt been this excited about Thursday TV programming since The Cosby Show followed by A Different World!

TIME OUT- Let Me Regulate!

2009-04-09T04:15:00.000-05:00

In my 32 years of living on this earth, you know where I've found some of the most mean, hostile and hypocritical people I've ever met? CHURCH! Yes I said it...Church! Church folks will cuss you out in a minute and do it in the name of the lawd! Will call you all out ya name and then tell you they praying for you! And then they wonder why more folks are not coming to church. I consider myself to be a christian, although I don't attend church regularly, and I cuss like a sailor on leave. But to me Christianity has nothing to do with going to church like many church folks think. Christianity just means being more Christ like! If you read the bible, Jesus was never mean or hostile with others, even when they were to him. He never even said a word to those who would persecute him. If you call yourself a Christian, I think the best way to be like Christ is to be kind and loving like him, even in the face of hostility. I got a feeling that some church folks are gonna find out too late that it wasn't all the praying, and so called piety that earned them their way into heaven, but just the mere act of being unkind is what lost their souls.

So with that said, in light of yesterday's controversy, let me do some housekeeping. Attacking someones race, nationality, sex, or sexuality on this blog (via comments) is uncalled for and unacceptable. I will also not tolerate name calling even if you follow it with an "I'll pray for you". It's insulting and hypocritical. And lastly, if your comment is longer than the actual blog post itself then it is entirely too long, and if you have that much to say either channel it into your own blog, or send it to me via an email.

When I go to othe sites or other blogs I make it my point to be respectful and courteous and above all kind to not only the blogger but also to the patrons of that site, because they are an extension of that blogger. And as for this blog, the patrons of my site are all my friends. And I don't take kindly to others talking about my friends, even from a friend.

I love you and God loves you. Let's just be more loving to each other from now on.

THROWBACK THURSDAY VIDEO - One Hit Wonders Edition

2009-04-09T03:59:00.008-05:00

All this week, VH-1 has taken a break from hooking up hoochies with has been celebrities to countdown the Top 100 One Hit Wonders of the 80's. And I have been in heaven, cuz I'm such an 80's baby. So here's a few of the freshest videos from the dopest decade. Enjoy!

Real Talk- Holding On To Resentment

2009-04-08T05:00:00.000-05:00

I was driving home from work tonight, talking to one of my best friends on the phone. We were discussing issues, or to be specific the issue that is my mother. My mother, who I like to describe as a force of nature. She's a tornado, a hurricane, and typhoon all I one, and growing up with this kind of energy has been difficult to say the least. Needless to say I've developed a shit load of resentments regarding her. So I was discussing one of these resentments with my friend on my drive home and she said to me "D you need to let that go...You're not hurting her by holding on to it...You're just hurting yourself." And in my heart I already know this, but I told my friend "We'll I'm not ready to let it go yet!" Had a little attitude too, and I had the nerve to tell my friend I'd call her back. Something I tend to do when I know she's right and I'm wrong.

My response to her got me to thinking, why am I holding on to this? Why can't I just let it go? And when I honestly think about it, just being brutally honest with myself, it's because it allows me to play the victim, the wounded party, the person you wronged! We assume different roles in each of our relationships with others, and I'm realizing that in my relationship with my mother, I've allowed myself to play the victim. The beauty in being the victim is that you don't have to take responsibility for how your life turns out. I'm this, because you did or didn't do that, which is a cop out!

So how do I stop? Shit if I know! It was only a 40 minute drive. I guess recognizing that it's a problem is the first step. What I do after that? Who knows! But introspection is a powerful tool to living a more authentic and self actualized life. I'll share more, when more comes to me!

Someone once described resentment to me like this. You drank the poison, but you waiting on them to die.

Someone For Everyone?

2009-04-07T05:07:00.007-05:00

I was talking with some friends a few days ago, and like most of our conversations, the subject of love and relationships was the topic du jour. My friend Kaiwan asked the question "Do you think there is someone for everyone?" There was a quick pause, and you could almost hear everyone’s brains pondering this question. Then Tam said, "Dani why don't you take this one". And I have a good idea why she directed the conversation to me. Unfortunately women of a certain age, of which I and Tam fall into, know the answer to this question all too well. And I don't want to come off like a single bitter sister, because I'm not necessarily bitter, at least not anymore. But for older women, especially black women, we've already come to terms with the fact that statistically there isn't someone for everyone.

The fact is 45% of black women are single and never been married, compared to 23% of our white counterparts. For black women of a certain education level the odds are equally not in our favor when it comes to getting married. For black women the more education you have the less likely you are to get married. So smart women are less desirable? Yeah this one shocked me to, but I guess it shouldn't because I see it in my own family. My female cousins without college degrees are married, and I and my cousins with degrees are single. So...black men don't want to marry educated black women? That's a question for whole other blog!

So the fact remains...a woman like me...black, educated, independent, intelligent, sophisticated, cultured, and completely fabulous, probably will never marry. And people wonder why black women have an attitude. So I and Tam are left with just a few options. Do we resign ourselves to our lonely fates, or do we seek companionship outside our race? Black men have been exercising their options to date other races for years. Much to many a black woman’s chagrin.

As for me...Daniealle...what I feel today....subject to change at any time...is that I don't really see me dating any other race. I don't know...maybe this type of thinking is why I'm single. I've always said that I was open to dating outside my race, but honestly I've never seriously pursued it. I’m not one of those people…the ones who say they don’t even see color. We’ll I see color…bold and vivid color. I admit it, I have some racial hang ups. Once again...another topic for another blog!

So I guess that leaves me alone. And just a few years ago that very thought would send me into a depression. But the older I get the more comfortable I'm becoming with myself. I kinda like me now, and although I'd love to have someone to share my life with, it's not my end all goal. I'm fine with being single...not happy...not completely content...but fine...far from bitter...but fine. Hey it took me a couple of years and lots of therapy to get to fine...SO LEAVE ME ALONE!!!

Ask Dani

2009-04-07T05:00:00.000-05:00

Problems with your relationship? Family? Job? Are you sick of the people around you telling you what they think you want to hear? Do you want the truth? Well you can't handle the truth!!!! Oh...you can? We'll I'm going to give you the truth. Just send me an email detailing your dilemma, and I'll give you my honest opinion, and I'll post the questions and my response every week. I don't profess to have all the answers, but I will give you my sincere and honest view...uncensored and unapologetic. So you want my two cents regarding your problems? Well, ask Dani!!!

All questions should be sent to TriplevowelsTwoCents@gmail.com

5 Questions

2009-04-07T04:53:00.004-05:00

1. Are you currently in love?

2. If you could swap lives with one of your friends, would you?

3. Have you ever bought an article of clothing, wore it, and then returned it?

4. Would you say that you have a good relationship with your parents?

5. Are you currently dealing with a serious addiction?

Im BACK!!!

2009-04-03T05:24:00.005-05:00

I see you giving me the side eye! I'm sure you're saying to yourself, "Heffa, how you going to have a blog for less than 2 weeks and then take a 2 week break". And I can explain. See...ummmm....what had happened was. LOL! No...for real here's the thing, or as my good friend Porcelain would say "Bitch, here's the tea!"

So during my little break, I took a little trip to New York. Met up with my friends Sunny, Robyn and the aforementioned Porcelain for an extended weekend. While in NYC we had the opportunity to meet and party with someone we all adored, vlogger/blogger B. Scott. Wait...you don't know who B. Scott eeeaahhh? Oh no ma'am. Check out this video, then immediately go to www.youtube.com/user/lovebscott and subscribe to his channel! Like right now...for real!!!

Okay now that that's taken care of, back to trip to New York. So while in NYC, we attended B's 28Th birthday party, which was soooooo splendiferous!!! And for the record he is as down to earth and cool and funny as he appears in his videos.

So, I'm sure as you can see, I had an amazing time in NYC. So after that I had to come home and get back on my grind, cuz being fabulous and things in NYC is not cheap! So I had to get back to work. So the reason I haven't been blogging is because I've been working. We'll to be honest work is like 50% of the reason, the other 50% I guess I can attribute to laziness!

And I had every intention to continue my hiatus through the weekend and start posting on Monday, but something has gotten me all types of agitated so I had to come back and rant about it. And what is this fuckery that has cured me of my loafing ways. It is the trumfoolery that Diddy has inflicted on the viewing public...Making The Band!!!!

Are these not the most crying, emotional and sensitive group of youths you ever did see? I'm watching last nite like many people, completely confused. Why are they fighting? Why is Q shouting at their manager? Why is Brian jumping all around like a toy poodle that has to pee? And why the fuck is Robert walking down the damn street crying? And why am I watching this mess? Like for real? I guess the pressure of working for Diddy makes folk loose they mind and self destruct. Can you say Danity Kane? I'm just saying. Some are speculating that maybe it's sexual tension amongst the members that's causing the problem. Well...it would explain alot. And will someone please tell Q to give Sallie Jessy Raphael her glasses back!

This bitchassednesss!!! So with very little hesitation, this weeks Travy Award, for their contribution to field of DTM and complete and utter foolishness goes to Day26! Congratulations guys! Don't have a grammy, but you now have a Travy!!!

THISISWHATIBELIEVE

2009-03-19T05:00:00.002-05:00

As a good friend, were supposed to be encouraging and supportive of our friends dreams and goals. I think we can all agree on that. But what if you don't believe in there dreams, do you lie? If your friend is over 40 and they still talking about being a rapper, or they're not all that attractive and they want to be a model. I was just wondering because after I saw the video of this guy singing, my first thought was, he must not have any friends. I think that if you're friends with someone, you owe them the truth. Don't you do your friend a disservice by not giving them your honest opinion? So in this case, this child's friends need to be fired!!! His YouTube channel is called Thatswhatibelieve, and I guess what he believe is that he can sing, but you be the judge. If this was your friend, would you tell him that he really couldn't sing?

This is just a small sample...he has over 100 videos of himself singing posted on YouTube.

Throwback Thursday Video

2009-03-19T05:00:00.000-05:00

This weeks Throwback Video is Teena Marie singing "If I Were A Bell" on BET's Video Soul. This is back when singers actually could sing...had for real talent, and not just a cute face and a marketing gimmick. Can you picture Keyshia Cole, Ciara, or Rihanna on 106&Park singing live...sounding half this good? Oh...and peep that sexy Donnie Simpson...looking all types of yummy. Did anybody else have a crush on him or was it just me? Something about the eyes just did it for me. My only problem is, why Donnie just stand there and look at her while she sang? But like a true professional Teena was unfazed and laid down an amazing vocal performance. Could Keri Hilson do the same with Terrence all in her mug? I think not.

Is O Really The Expert?

2009-03-18T05:36:00.000-05:00

I was in my favorite store in the world, Walgreen's, the other day. It was that time of the month, so I had to get personal products, chocolate, and magazines. The magazines are to keep me busy so I won't cuss out folks. It used to be a pack of Black and Milds, but I had to give em up...just too many vices at one time. And last time I checked In Style doesn't cause cancer. So I'm on the magazine aisle perusing the issues, checking out the cover stories, just seeing what catches my eye. So I happened to notice one of the cover stories on Oprah's O Magazine was about dieting, and something occurred to me. It seems like every issue of O Magazine has some article about dieting..."Diets That Work" or "Take Off The Weight And Keep It Off". But my question to Oprah is, if all these diet tips worked, then how come they didn't work for you. Just this past year Oprah regained a reported 50 pounds, and this is just the latest weight gain. Its been a veritable roller coaster of ups and downs with regards to O's weight. I remember the first weight loss show, when she came out in her size ten jeans and black turtle neck, with the wagon that had the rubber blobs that was supposed to represent all the fat she lost I remember the "healthy" cookbook by her chef Rosie. I even bought the book...didn't cook anything...but I owned it. And now her fitness guru is Bob Greene and initially it looked like it worked, like most diets do, but like with all her other previous weight loss endeavors she gained the weight back. And to me the success of a weight loss program is judged on the ability to take the weight off, but also to keep the weight off. So I'm left thinking...when are we going to stop looking to Oprah as a credible source for weight loss guidance. Don't get me wrong... I love Oprah and I value her insight and opinion on many a subject. Hey...I still want to know what her favorite things are and book selections for the book club, but I think she's lost credibility in regards to weight. I don't need anymore dieting tips, tricks, or shortcuts Oprah...not until it works for you.

This Song Makes Me Happy!!!

2009-03-18T05:33:00.000-05:00

Wild Young Hearts

5 Questions

2009-03-18T05:30:00.000-05:00

1. Do you get kinda sad and emotional when you think about TI going to jail?

2. Are you about two seconds from cussing out somebody at your church?

3. Have you ever cheated with your best friends current boyfriend or girlfriend?

4. Are you currently trying to lose weight?

5. Have you ever picked a fight with your significant other just to get out spending time with them, because you had other plans?

My Gratitude

2009-03-13T05:00:00.000-05:00

Today is the end of my first whole week as a blogger, and I can honestly say I'm loving it. This has been one of the most rewarding and exhilarating experiences of my life. A diva always loves an audience. But this experience would not have been what it has been without the love, and encouragement and full out support of a few people. These incredible individuals left countless comments and messages saying how they enjoyed the blog, and encouraged me to continue, placed me on their blog rolls, and more. And for this I am humbled and grateful beyond measure. I had an epiphany this week, or an A ha moment as Oprah would say. It was this... I have some of the most amazingly beautiful people in my life that I've been blessed to call friends. You guys fucking rock!!! I'm getting a little teary eyed writing this so I'm just going to dedicated this song, Patti Labelle's "You Are My Friend" to my friends RoRo, Trav, Sunny, Honeydip, Ms.Glitterati, mrsFAB, Porcelain, Jay, Tam, Jazzy, Apple, Ms. NeeCee, Erikka, Nicole, Kaiwan, Tre'Von, Ken, Golda and all the others who decided to follow me on this ride.

Throwback Thursday Video

2009-03-12T06:00:00.001-05:00

When I was younger...dating myself now, nothing brought me more joy than Punky Brewster. And since it was the 80's, and I was just a tad bit color struck, I was so in love with DeBarge...like most girls my age at the time. So you know I was in a 80's teen dream coma, when this episode of Punky Brewster featuring Debarge aired. Not only was it DeBarge, but lil brother Chico too... before his incarceration. This is DeBarge minus Bunny and El but with big brother Bobby formerly of the group Switch. Peep Chico's hair and somebody please tell what was up with James and his spastic little mannerisms during his performance. This video gives me such a feva!!!!

This Shit Bothers Me - Vloggers

2009-03-12T05:55:00.000-05:00

This edition of "This Shit Bothers Me" is dedicated to the few things that annoy me about Vloggers. Now don't get me wrong I love vlogs, and vloggers and the video magic they create. I aspire to be one, and some of my good friends are amazing vloggers, and this blog is in no way about them. But nothing is perfect...so as much as I love vloggers, there are some things they do that bother me.

In the wake of the Chris Brown/Rihanna abuse scandal, this first irksome phenomenon became an overwhelming annoyance. And that was the vloggers who began their videos with this cringe inducing utterance "I wasn't going to talk about this but"...UGH!!! These videos made me crazy. It's like they're trying to be above it all, when they know they really were just as riveted as most of us were as the details became clearer. It irks me when they pretend to be too cool for such sensational commentary. Puh-leaze!!! Or better yet they say they're so over with certain subjects but three vlogs later they're again discussing it. I wish they'd realize that we want to hear your commentary on the utter foolishness and trumfoolery you feign ambivalence for.

Another irksome practice of vloggers is these long ass blogs about nothing. Long...anything over 7 minutes becomes torture for my borderline ADD ass. Who do you think wants to hear you talk for 10 minutes about nothing. Don't get me wrong...I've seen some 10 minute videos that had me glued to my monitor. If the subject matter is insightful or entertaining and the delivery is engaging, then I'm there. But many videos are lacking these components. And for those vloggers who start your videos with "I didn't have nothing else to do" or "I was bored so I decided to make a video" and then continue with 6 minutes of nothing...for you jokers, I'm going to ask you to take a damn seat.

For me YouTube is this symbiotic relationship between those who make videos and those who watch the videos. Symbiosis is when two beings coexist together for their mutual benefit… no one greater than the other but equal. The vloggers make the video's to inform and entertain. And the viewer or subscriber provides the vlogger with an audience and gives feedback regarding what they're viewing. This relationship is placed out of balance when those who make the videos decide to disable comments. The viewer gives you an attentive audience, but when it’s time to comment or give their opinion then the door is closed on the subject. That seems to me a bit unfair and one sided, and slightly arrogant. Disabling the comments sends the message that my opinion or view on this matter is the only one that matters.

Lastly, but certainly not least, but in fact this is probably the one that bothers me the most. It’s this small phrase that even some of my favorite Youtubers have said and each and every time it makes me crazy. It's the phrase "It's just YouTube!" I hate this statement so much...it’s just teeming with superiority and self-importance. It's like by saying that if you're bothered by something on YouTube then you're somehow overly invested, or concerned. Like it only takes a few seconds to do these sometimes very elaborate videos. "It's just YouTube! I don't really think about making new videos. It's just YouTube! Making videos don't take up a good chunk of my time. It's just YouTube!" And for those vloggers who say they really don't spend a lot of time thinking about making videos, coming up with topics, or editing. To them I say "Trust me boo boo we know, and it shows". Saying "It's just YouTube" is dismissive and insulting, and I wish it would stop.
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Lazy Blogging

2009-03-11T19:42:00.005-05:00

So... it's after 7pm...and no blogs for today! What a way to start my first week blogging. But I have an excuse...I'm stuck in Jefferson City in this damn training. Sorry...couldn't be avoided. So here's some of my latest, favest videos, to hold you until I can be back to my regular blog.

My Top 20 - Sexy Love Songs

2009-03-10T10:40:00.001-05:00

I recently rediscovered an old song I hadn't heard in years. It was "I Love You More Than You'll Ever Know" by Donnie Hathaway. My first thought was "how did you forget about this?"...my second thought was "damn this a sexy song". This got me thinking about all my favorite romantic, get you in the mood, eargasmic songs, old and new...mostly old. So here is what I came up with. I had to restrain myself on overly relying on Prince, so I limited myself to only 3 Prince songs. It could have easily been 20 Prince songs, and I wouldn't have mind, but I think you'll like it this way. So did I include some of your faves? Leave me a comment and tell me what I should add to complete this playlist. Just as I finished typing that last sentence, a question popped in my head. How can you have a romantic playlist without Luther or Gerald? This it proving to be harder than I thought!

5 Questions

2009-03-10T10:25:00.002-05:00

1. Are you surprised by how well Lil Kim performed on Dancing With The Stars last nite?

2. Do you have an ex, that if given the opportunity, you'd go back to?

3. Have you ever had sex with someone you were too ashamed or embarrassed to tell your friends about?

4. Do you think you spend too much time online?

5. Would you or have you ever consider prostitution or pornography as a viable way to generate income?

Cure For The Monday Blues

2009-03-09T04:10:00.003-05:00

I know, I know. It's Monday morning, and you're back at work. The weekend was almost non existent and you're still looking for that hour you lost to daylight savings time. We'll here is a little pick me up for what's ailing you this Monday morn. I hope it brings a smile to your face and you share that smile with everyone you see.

This video is from Asathecomic featuring his very cute, and adorable son Lil Asa.

You Wanna Follow Me?

2009-03-09T03:46:00.002-05:00

As many of you know, from reading my blog, or witnessing first hand, I have a bit of an addiction to Twitter. For which I'm seeking help for, and I'm taking it one day at a time. But I think I might blow my progress, because something quite fabulous happened last nite. I am such a big fan of Anthony David. So when I saw that he was on Twitter, I started following him immediately, with the quickness. So I get an email last nite and it says that Anthony David is following me. So you know this blows all my 12 steps to hell. This was like crack to a fiend. Now how am I going to ween myself off this damn site? Sure has the right name...Don't twitter sound like something an addict does when they need a fix. "Come on man...I just need a hit...can't you see I'm twittering?"

For those living under an effin rock...here you go...get into this!!!

This Made Me Laugh, Then It Made Me Think, Then It Made Me Mad

2009-03-09T01:56:00.012-05:00

First watch the video and then read my thoughts on the subject. Lastly, leave me a comment...I'd like to hear what you think about this video.

When I first saw this video I died laughing, not so much at the ending...kinda got too preachy. But like good comedy, it injects a few granules of truth into the punch line. However, quite a bit of it was some bull. Chris Brown is a victim? Ummm well when he gets punched in the face multiple times, bitten, threatened and are screaming for his life then maybe then I'd believe that. So now were going to blame this incident on misogynistic rap lyrics? Well let’s take it one step further...How bout we blame T-Mobile for allowing the text messages, because if Rihanna just hadn't read those texts then this whole incident could have been avoided. Absurd? We'll that's what I was thinking.

What threw me about this video is the ending...the video kind of morphed into an attack on rappers and rap lyrics. Not even a good attack, because what does Three Six Mafia winning an Oscar for "It's Hard out Here for a Pimp" have to do with Chris Brown or abuse against women. The song was for a movie about a Pimp...and thus completely appropriate. My question then becomes that aside from the Chris Brown case are these your true thoughts on hardcore, sexist rap lyrics, because if it is then kudos to you. But I am more inclined to believe that you are you using rap lyrics as a crafty ruse to divert the attention from Chris Brown's culpability.

Something very disingenuous about this video that upsets me, and at first I couldn't quite put my finger on it, but then it came to me. "You think I’m stupid or something!" Don't insult my intelligence. Did you really think that you could convince normally sound of mind, and rational thinking people into believing that Chris Brown is a victim in this scenario? But to tell you the truth, you almost got me...I'll admit it. You lulled me in the beginning with the initial comedy in the video and played on my already inherent fondness for Charlie Brown. Very clever!

So to you HATERAZZI1, a round of applause...a standing ovation. You really should be on Chris Brown's defense team, because I'm sure this very video has persuaded someone into thinking that Chris Brown IS a victim. I could only imagine the damage you could do with a jury.

The SitchoAss Down Award Of The Week (Travy)

2009-03-06T10:47:00.002-06:00

Here on my blog, I'd like to take time out to recognize the achievements in the field of DTM (doing the most). Doing the most...sometimes referred to as being extra, all out of pocket, swerving out your lane , or like my mama likes to say "just getting out of hand". So every week I will acknowledge someones contribution to the area of DTM, and present them with the SitchoAss Down Award or Travy. So named after my good friend Trav, who on the occassions when someone is doing the most in his presence will quickly yet very politely tell them to "have a seat".

The competition was very tough this week. I considered awarding Chris Brown with this honor, in light of his smug appearance in court this week, but I decided that all he should be the recipient of is an effin beat down. Just for the record, here on this blog were "Team Rihanna"! Were just waiting for her to join the team, but that's a whole other blog post.

So...this week's recipient of the very first SitchoAss Down Award or Travy, for his achievements in DTM and utter trumfoolery is.... YoBoiNewnue for his video "How In The Hell Are You Born Gay". In this video Newnue presumes to tell other gay people that they were not born gay and that homosexuality is a choice. He annoyed me thoroughly when he felt the need to be the official gay spokesperson. He later put out a follow up video, clarifying that he was only speaking for his own experiences. But here's the video that has made YoBoiNewnue our winner of the Travy for this week.

I had to also feature my good friend Porcelain's response video. He was so eloquent and fabulous and looked all types of scrumptious to boot. If you're not subscribed to him, then you're so missing out.

I Need A Twelve Step Program

2009-03-06T05:00:00.004-06:00

I have just entered the seven circles of hell. Too extreme? Maybe crack den would be a more accurate description, because I definitely feel like a fiend. I crave it like nicotine. It keeps me up all nite. I can't sleep. I can't eat. Well let me not lie. I can still eat, but it's a hurried activity, their is no joy in it like before. I've neglected friends and family all to satisfy my addiction. So what am I addicted to you wonder? I'm almost too ashamed to say, but it's.... Twitter. I am constantly posting updates and reading updates and refreshing my page so I won't miss anything new. When I get on my laptop it's the first site I go to and the last site I check before I turn the computer off. And my question to myself is "when did your life become so sad that the random and sometimes mundane activities of your friends has your complete attention?" Why do I need to know that B fell off the treadmill, or Jay is drinking a Naked Juice, or Honey just watched Mahogany. I don't know, but I guess anythings better than watching "For The Love of Ray J". I guess Twitter allows people to remain connected, especially for those friends who live far from each other. Maybe me knowing that Jay is drinking juice keeps us connected, and this leads me to a question. Has cyber connections replaced real ones? Or are cyber connection real connections? I tend to lean to side of cyber connections being real connections. You're a real person, the person you're connecting with is real, real conversations, just the communication medium has changed. So whats so wrong with staying connected with others. Look at me...like a complete addict. I've just rationalized my Twitter addiction into just a simple desire to stay connected with my friends. I need a Twelve Step program, for real. Isn't admitting you have a problem the first step? Well here goes.... My name is Daniealle...And I'm a Twitter-holic!

Patriot Acts

2009-03-06T05:00:00.003-06:00

I have a question. I've posed this one to some of my friends to mix responses, but I guess I'll send it out to the digital universe. So my question is this... If you have sexual fantasies about the President is that considered patriotic or just creepy? I say patriotic, and lately I've been feeling like a true patriot. *Whistling Yankee Doodle*

My Life Coach

2009-03-06T05:00:00.002-06:00

Katt Williams on Self Esteem

Katt Williams on Haters

Opinions And Assholes

2009-03-05T00:06:00.000-06:00

I have this book on astrology. It gives a personality profile based on your date of birth including your year. It said I (the 76 Cancer) was a "Cuddly Critic"... I have an opinion for everything. Never had a book pegged me so well. I am opinionated! Unashamed and unapologetic. Does this get me in trouble? Not so much anymore. Had to learn that an unsolicited or unwanted opinion is just that... unwanted! I've also learned to read the signs. I'm always trying to avoid that look. You know the one...the "Bitch who asked you?" look. But I'm grateful to say that today most of my friends call me for my opinions...they value my unique take on things. Lately some friends have been asking me why I didn't blog "because you have a lot to say". And to this I say....I do. But my hesitation came when thinking about what I would blog about. Politics? I have a passing interest in politics, but nothing that would sustain a blog. Entertainment? I love entertainment and celebrity blogs... read them everyday...but I don't think I have anything new or fresh to add to the table. If you're not adding to the conversation then what's the point. And theirs nothing worse than being irrelevant. Then it came to me. You don't have to have a premise or a platform for your blog. Its just you...what you think...your opinions...your two cents, for whatever that's worth...not much in this economy. So... this is my blog... just my opinion on whatever random subject I'm feeling at the moment...Just my two cents.