THISISWHATIBELIEVE

As a good friend, were supposed to be encouraging and supportive of our friends dreams and goals. I think we can all agree on that. But what if you don't believe in there dreams, do you lie? If your friend is over 40 and they still talking about being a rapper, or they're not all that attractive and they want to be a model. I was just wondering because after I saw the video of this guy singing, my first thought was, he must not have any friends. I think that if you're friends with someone, you owe them the truth. Don't you do your friend a disservice by not giving them your honest opinion? So in this case, this child's friends need to be fired!!! His YouTube channel is called Thatswhatibelieve, and I guess what he believe is that he can sing, but you be the judge. If this was your friend, would you tell him that he really couldn't sing?









This is just a small sample...he has over 100 videos of himself singing posted on YouTube.

Throwback Thursday Video

This weeks Throwback Video is Teena Marie singing "If I Were A Bell" on BET's Video Soul. This is back when singers actually could sing...had for real talent, and not just a cute face and a marketing gimmick. Can you picture Keyshia Cole, Ciara, or Rihanna on 106&Park singing live...sounding half this good? Oh...and peep that sexy Donnie Simpson...looking all types of yummy. Did anybody else have a crush on him or was it just me? Something about the eyes just did it for me. My only problem is, why Donnie just stand there and look at her while she sang? But like a true professional Teena was unfazed and laid down an amazing vocal performance. Could Keri Hilson do the same with Terrence all in her mug? I think not.

Is O Really The Expert?

I was in my favorite store in the world, Walgreen's, the other day. It was that time of the month, so I had to get personal products, chocolate, and magazines. The magazines are to keep me busy so I won't cuss out folks. It used to be a pack of Black and Milds, but I had to give em up...just too many vices at one time. And last time I checked In Style doesn't cause cancer. So I'm on the magazine aisle perusing the issues, checking out the cover stories, just seeing what catches my eye. So I happened to notice one of the cover stories on Oprah's O Magazine was about dieting, and something occurred to me. It seems like every issue of O Magazine has some article about dieting..."Diets That Work" or "Take Off The Weight And Keep It Off". But my question to Oprah is, if all these diet tips worked, then how come they didn't work for you. Just this past year Oprah regained a reported 50 pounds, and this is just the latest weight gain. Its been a veritable roller coaster of ups and downs with regards to O's weight. I remember the first weight loss show, when she came out in her size ten jeans and black turtle neck, with the wagon that had the rubber blobs that was supposed to represent all the fat she lost I remember the "healthy" cookbook by her chef Rosie. I even bought the book...didn't cook anything...but I owned it. And now her fitness guru is Bob Greene and initially it looked like it worked, like most diets do, but like with all her other previous weight loss endeavors she gained the weight back. And to me the success of a weight loss program is judged on the ability to take the weight off, but also to keep the weight off. So I'm left thinking...when are we going to stop looking to Oprah as a credible source for weight loss guidance. Don't get me wrong... I love Oprah and I value her insight and opinion on many a subject. Hey...I still want to know what her favorite things are and book selections for the book club, but I think she's lost credibility in regards to weight. I don't need anymore dieting tips, tricks, or shortcuts Oprah...not until it works for you.

This Song Makes Me Happy!!!

Wild Young Hearts

5 Questions

1. Do you get kinda sad and emotional when you think about TI going to jail?

2. Are you about two seconds from cussing out somebody at your church?

3. Have you ever cheated with your best friends current boyfriend or girlfriend?

4. Are you currently trying to lose weight?

5. Have you ever picked a fight with your significant other just to get out spending time with them, because you had other plans?

My Gratitude

Today is the end of my first whole week as a blogger, and I can honestly say I'm loving it. This has been one of the most rewarding and exhilarating experiences of my life. A diva always loves an audience. But this experience would not have been what it has been without the love, and encouragement and full out support of a few people. These incredible individuals left countless comments and messages saying how they enjoyed the blog, and encouraged me to continue, placed me on their blog rolls, and more. And for this I am humbled and grateful beyond measure. I had an epiphany this week, or an A ha moment as Oprah would say. It was this... I have some of the most amazingly beautiful people in my life that I've been blessed to call friends. You guys fucking rock!!! I'm getting a little teary eyed writing this so I'm just going to dedicated this song, Patti Labelle's "You Are My Friend" to my friends RoRo, Trav, Sunny, Honeydip, Ms.Glitterati, mrsFAB, Porcelain, Jay, Tam, Jazzy, Apple, Ms. NeeCee, Erikka, Nicole, Kaiwan, Tre'Von, Ken, Golda and all the others who decided to follow me on this ride.

Throwback Thursday Video

When I was younger...dating myself now, nothing brought me more joy than Punky Brewster. And since it was the 80's, and I was just a tad bit color struck, I was so in love with DeBarge...like most girls my age at the time. So you know I was in a 80's teen dream coma, when this episode of Punky Brewster featuring Debarge aired. Not only was it DeBarge, but lil brother Chico too... before his incarceration. This is DeBarge minus Bunny and El but with big brother Bobby formerly of the group Switch. Peep Chico's hair and somebody please tell what was up with James and his spastic little mannerisms during his performance. This video gives me such a feva!!!!

This Shit Bothers Me - Vloggers

This edition of "This Shit Bothers Me" is dedicated to the few things that annoy me about Vloggers. Now don't get me wrong I love vlogs, and vloggers and the video magic they create. I aspire to be one, and some of my good friends are amazing vloggers, and this blog is in no way about them. But nothing is perfect...so as much as I love vloggers, there are some things they do that bother me.

In the wake of the Chris Brown/Rihanna abuse scandal, this first irksome phenomenon became an overwhelming annoyance. And that was the vloggers who began their videos with this cringe inducing utterance "I wasn't going to talk about this but"...UGH!!! These videos made me crazy. It's like they're trying to be above it all, when they know they really were just as riveted as most of us were as the details became clearer. It irks me when they pretend to be too cool for such sensational commentary. Puh-leaze!!! Or better yet they say they're so over with certain subjects but three vlogs later they're again discussing it. I wish they'd realize that we want to hear your commentary on the utter foolishness and trumfoolery you feign ambivalence for.

Another irksome practice of vloggers is these long ass blogs about nothing. Long...anything over 7 minutes becomes torture for my borderline ADD ass. Who do you think wants to hear you talk for 10 minutes about nothing. Don't get me wrong...I've seen some 10 minute videos that had me glued to my monitor. If the subject matter is insightful or entertaining and the delivery is engaging, then I'm there. But many videos are lacking these components. And for those vloggers who start your videos with "I didn't have nothing else to do" or "I was bored so I decided to make a video" and then continue with 6 minutes of nothing...for you jokers, I'm going to ask you to take a damn seat.

For me YouTube is this symbiotic relationship between those who make videos and those who watch the videos. Symbiosis is when two beings coexist together for their mutual benefit… no one greater than the other but equal. The vloggers make the video's to inform and entertain. And the viewer or subscriber provides the vlogger with an audience and gives feedback regarding what they're viewing. This relationship is placed out of balance when those who make the videos decide to disable comments. The viewer gives you an attentive audience, but when it’s time to comment or give their opinion then the door is closed on the subject. That seems to me a bit unfair and one sided, and slightly arrogant. Disabling the comments sends the message that my opinion or view on this matter is the only one that matters.

Lastly, but certainly not least, but in fact this is probably the one that bothers me the most. It’s this small phrase that even some of my favorite Youtubers have said and each and every time it makes me crazy. It's the phrase "It's just YouTube!" I hate this statement so much...it’s just teeming with superiority and self-importance. It's like by saying that if you're bothered by something on YouTube then you're somehow overly invested, or concerned. Like it only takes a few seconds to do these sometimes very elaborate videos. "It's just YouTube! I don't really think about making new videos. It's just YouTube! Making videos don't take up a good chunk of my time. It's just YouTube!" And for those vloggers who say they really don't spend a lot of time thinking about making videos, coming up with topics, or editing. To them I say "Trust me boo boo we know, and it shows". Saying "It's just YouTube" is dismissive and insulting, and I wish it would stop.
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Lazy Blogging

So... it's after 7pm...and no blogs for today! What a way to start my first week blogging. But I have an excuse...I'm stuck in Jefferson City in this damn training. Sorry...couldn't be avoided. So here's some of my latest, favest videos, to hold you until I can be back to my regular blog.

My Top 20 - Sexy Love Songs

I recently rediscovered an old song I hadn't heard in years. It was "I Love You More Than You'll Ever Know" by Donnie Hathaway. My first thought was "how did you forget about this?"...my second thought was "damn this a sexy song". This got me thinking about all my favorite romantic, get you in the mood, eargasmic songs, old and new...mostly old. So here is what I came up with. I had to restrain myself on overly relying on Prince, so I limited myself to only 3 Prince songs. It could have easily been 20 Prince songs, and I wouldn't have mind, but I think you'll like it this way. So did I include some of your faves? Leave me a comment and tell me what I should add to complete this playlist. Just as I finished typing that last sentence, a question popped in my head. How can you have a romantic playlist without Luther or Gerald? This it proving to be harder than I thought!

5 Questions

1. Are you surprised by how well Lil Kim performed on Dancing With The Stars last nite?

2. Do you have an ex, that if given the opportunity, you'd go back to?

3. Have you ever had sex with someone you were too ashamed or embarrassed to tell your friends about?

4. Do you think you spend too much time online?

5. Would you or have you ever consider prostitution or pornography as a viable way to generate income?

Cure For The Monday Blues

I know, I know. It's Monday morning, and you're back at work. The weekend was almost non existent and you're still looking for that hour you lost to daylight savings time. We'll here is a little pick me up for what's ailing you this Monday morn. I hope it brings a smile to your face and you share that smile with everyone you see.

This video is from Asathecomic featuring his very cute, and adorable son Lil Asa.

You Wanna Follow Me?

As many of you know, from reading my blog, or witnessing first hand, I have a bit of an addiction to Twitter. For which I'm seeking help for, and I'm taking it one day at a time. But I think I might blow my progress, because something quite fabulous happened last nite. I am such a big fan of Anthony David. So when I saw that he was on Twitter, I started following him immediately, with the quickness. So I get an email last nite and it says that Anthony David is following me. So you know this blows all my 12 steps to hell. This was like crack to a fiend. Now how am I going to ween myself off this damn site? Sure has the right name...Don't twitter sound like something an addict does when they need a fix. "Come on man...I just need a hit...can't you see I'm twittering?"

For those living under an effin rock...here you go...get into this!!!

This Made Me Laugh, Then It Made Me Think, Then It Made Me Mad

First watch the video and then read my thoughts on the subject. Lastly, leave me a comment...I'd like to hear what you think about this video.



When I first saw this video I died laughing, not so much at the ending...kinda got too preachy. But like good comedy, it injects a few granules of truth into the punch line. However, quite a bit of it was some bull. Chris Brown is a victim? Ummm well when he gets punched in the face multiple times, bitten, threatened and are screaming for his life then maybe then I'd believe that. So now were going to blame this incident on misogynistic rap lyrics? Well let’s take it one step further...How bout we blame T-Mobile for allowing the text messages, because if Rihanna just hadn't read those texts then this whole incident could have been avoided. Absurd? We'll that's what I was thinking.

What threw me about this video is the ending...the video kind of morphed into an attack on rappers and rap lyrics. Not even a good attack, because what does Three Six Mafia winning an Oscar for "It's Hard out Here for a Pimp" have to do with Chris Brown or abuse against women. The song was for a movie about a Pimp...and thus completely appropriate. My question then becomes that aside from the Chris Brown case are these your true thoughts on hardcore, sexist rap lyrics, because if it is then kudos to you. But I am more inclined to believe that you are you using rap lyrics as a crafty ruse to divert the attention from Chris Brown's culpability.

Something very disingenuous about this video that upsets me, and at first I couldn't quite put my finger on it, but then it came to me. "You think I’m stupid or something!" Don't insult my intelligence. Did you really think that you could convince normally sound of mind, and rational thinking people into believing that Chris Brown is a victim in this scenario? But to tell you the truth, you almost got me...I'll admit it. You lulled me in the beginning with the initial comedy in the video and played on my already inherent fondness for Charlie Brown. Very clever!

So to you HATERAZZI1, a round of applause...a standing ovation. You really should be on Chris Brown's defense team, because I'm sure this very video has persuaded someone into thinking that Chris Brown IS a victim. I could only imagine the damage you could do with a jury.

The SitchoAss Down Award Of The Week (Travy)

Here on my blog, I'd like to take time out to recognize the achievements in the field of DTM (doing the most). Doing the most...sometimes referred to as being extra, all out of pocket, swerving out your lane , or like my mama likes to say "just getting out of hand". So every week I will acknowledge someones contribution to the area of DTM, and present them with the SitchoAss Down Award or Travy. So named after my good friend Trav, who on the occassions when someone is doing the most in his presence will quickly yet very politely tell them to "have a seat".

The competition was very tough this week. I considered awarding Chris Brown with this honor, in light of his smug appearance in court this week, but I decided that all he should be the recipient of is an effin beat down. Just for the record, here on this blog were "Team Rihanna"! Were just waiting for her to join the team, but that's a whole other blog post.

So...this week's recipient of the very first SitchoAss Down Award or Travy, for his achievements in DTM and utter trumfoolery is.... YoBoiNewnue for his video "How In The Hell Are You Born Gay". In this video Newnue presumes to tell other gay people that they were not born gay and that homosexuality is a choice. He annoyed me thoroughly when he felt the need to be the official gay spokesperson. He later put out a follow up video, clarifying that he was only speaking for his own experiences. But here's the video that has made YoBoiNewnue our winner of the Travy for this week.


I had to also feature my good friend Porcelain's response video. He was so eloquent and fabulous and looked all types of scrumptious to boot. If you're not subscribed to him, then you're so missing out.

I Need A Twelve Step Program

I have just entered the seven circles of hell. Too extreme? Maybe crack den would be a more accurate description, because I definitely feel like a fiend. I crave it like nicotine. It keeps me up all nite. I can't sleep. I can't eat. Well let me not lie. I can still eat, but it's a hurried activity, their is no joy in it like before. I've neglected friends and family all to satisfy my addiction. So what am I addicted to you wonder? I'm almost too ashamed to say, but it's.... Twitter. I am constantly posting updates and reading updates and refreshing my page so I won't miss anything new. When I get on my laptop it's the first site I go to and the last site I check before I turn the computer off. And my question to myself is "when did your life become so sad that the random and sometimes mundane activities of your friends has your complete attention?" Why do I need to know that B fell off the treadmill, or Jay is drinking a Naked Juice, or Honey just watched Mahogany. I don't know, but I guess anythings better than watching "For The Love of Ray J". I guess Twitter allows people to remain connected, especially for those friends who live far from each other. Maybe me knowing that Jay is drinking juice keeps us connected, and this leads me to a question. Has cyber connections replaced real ones? Or are cyber connection real connections? I tend to lean to side of cyber connections being real connections. You're a real person, the person you're connecting with is real, real conversations, just the communication medium has changed. So whats so wrong with staying connected with others. Look at me...like a complete addict. I've just rationalized my Twitter addiction into just a simple desire to stay connected with my friends. I need a Twelve Step program, for real. Isn't admitting you have a problem the first step? Well here goes.... My name is Daniealle...And I'm a Twitter-holic!

Patriot Acts

I have a question. I've posed this one to some of my friends to mix responses, but I guess I'll send it out to the digital universe. So my question is this... If you have sexual fantasies about the President is that considered patriotic or just creepy? I say patriotic, and lately I've been feeling like a true patriot. *Whistling Yankee Doodle*

My Life Coach

Katt Williams on Self Esteem


Katt Williams on Haters

Opinions And Assholes

I have this book on astrology. It gives a personality profile based on your date of birth including your year. It said I (the 76 Cancer) was a "Cuddly Critic"... I have an opinion for everything. Never had a book pegged me so well. I am opinionated! Unashamed and unapologetic. Does this get me in trouble? Not so much anymore. Had to learn that an unsolicited or unwanted opinion is just that... unwanted! I've also learned to read the signs. I'm always trying to avoid that look. You know the one...the "Bitch who asked you?" look. But I'm grateful to say that today most of my friends call me for my opinions...they value my unique take on things. Lately some friends have been asking me why I didn't blog "because you have a lot to say". And to this I say....I do. But my hesitation came when thinking about what I would blog about. Politics? I have a passing interest in politics, but nothing that would sustain a blog. Entertainment? I love entertainment and celebrity blogs... read them everyday...but I don't think I have anything new or fresh to add to the table. If you're not adding to the conversation then what's the point. And theirs nothing worse than being irrelevant. Then it came to me. You don't have to have a premise or a platform for your blog. Its just you...what you think...your opinions...your two cents, for whatever that's worth...not much in this economy. So... this is my blog... just my opinion on whatever random subject I'm feeling at the moment...Just my two cents.