A Whole Lotta Random

1. I've been spring cleaning for about a week...I'm kinda over it!!! Just wish I hadn't made such a mess. Now I need someone to help me clean up my spring cleaning mess.

2. I'm so sick of the damn swine flu! Not so much the flu, but all these paranoid hypochondriacs I know who think they got it.

3. Scary Statement of the Week: came from the guy about to do my pedicure. "This is my first day...I'm so nervous" Ummmm....inexperience and sharp utensils...not a good idea, but in his defense, he did a pretty okay job.

4. I think I'm having a quarter life crisis.

5. Not paying rent has made me a tad bit lazy. I need to get my work swag back!

7. I'm trying to diet...got so hungry last nite...was tempted to order some overpriced brownies over the internet...called best friend to stage a mini intervention. I didn't order em, but no thanks to her. I think I'm going to order some and send them to her for a little bit of sabotage. She been looking a little too skinny in these last few pictures.

8. Marcus Patrick is so sexy...even his Tweets turn me on!

9. I still can't find my brown eel skin clutch...I'm bout to get a little upset.

10.My cat Endo has been sick...he's on an antibiotic. I think he has a STD. Is that possible? He stays out all times of the nite. I think he hoe strolling!

Throwback Thursday Video

This weeks throwback video comes from Ginuwine!!! If you were dating in the nineties, then Ginuwine has definitely been the soundtrack for many a late nite rendezvous. He made it cool for R&B male artist to dance again. So before there was Chris Brown or Neyo...there was Ginuwine!

5 Questions

1. Have you ever stalked anyone? Be honest! This includes the internet.

2. Are you afraid of catching the swine flu?

3. Do you have a YouTube crush? Who?

4. Would your friends describe you as a drama queen?

5. Did you miss me? LOL!!!

So...

So...I guess you've realized by now that I am a lazy blogger. Some days you're gonna have new post and some days...not so much. Sorry! But in my defense I've been trying to do a little bit of spring cleaning. I'm clearing out the old to make way for the new. And the new is these fabulous pair of patent leather peep toe Ferragamo pumps! Oooo new shoes just makes me happy!!! So I've been clearing out the unused and unwanted things out my wardrobe. I know there is some very deep metaphor about life I can expound on right now, but I'm not feeling all that deep today. Spring cleaning is just spring cleaning for this post. Does anyone else do this? In your attempt to clean up, you make a bigger mess than when you started. So I've been spring cleaning and cleaning up the mess the spring cleaning caused. Now many bloggers would leave you with the impression that all this cleaning is the reason I've not been blogging, but I'm not most bloggers. So let me keep it real! I'm just lazy. Sue me! So...now you know...You follow a lazy blogger!

My Top Five - Diva's

I was listening to some of my favorite Diva's last nite...you know...a lil Jill, some Erykah...threw in a little bit of Anita! This got me thinking about who are my favorite diva's. So I started making a list of my top 5, which then ballooned into 25. So after careful thought and consideration...I narrowed it down to 10. It was tough, because I love so many genres of music. Certain names you will not see on my list and trust me these omissions are intentional. Some are talented, but they just don't move me. So no MiMi, Brandy, Whitney and for damn sure you won't find no Beyonce. Sorry! So I'll first give you my 6-10.

10. Ledisi
9. Sarah Vaughn
8. Nancy Wilson
7. Anita Baker
6. Sade

And now my Top 5 Diva's


5. Teena Marie- She's a singers singer. She just opens her mouth and makes it seem effortless and amazing. And like all the rest of my Top 5, her voice is unique and immediately recognizable. No one sounds like Teena!


4. Patti Labelle- This one is a given. I'm sure she'd be found in most peoples Top 5. She can sing her face off and isn't afraid to put her everythin into a performance. If the spirit moves her, she'll kick her shoes off or roll around the stage. Love her!


3. Jill Scott- Jill can sing about waking up in the morning and what she ate for breakfast and make it sound good. Griiiiiiitttsss!!!! She can make you feel what she felt. I still wanna meet that damn Rasool! She is the REAL THING!!!


2. Erykah Badu- An amazing voice! Her music is raw and honest and real, and that's something quite rare in today's prepackaged, cookie cutter artist.


1. Phyllis Hyman- For those who know me, this is not a suprise, but Phyllis speaks to me. And when your Diva can do a fucking whistle solo, then maybe I'll reconsider, but until then, Phyllis is the queen!!! Gone too soon.


So who's your top 5?

Making The Band Episode 8 Review

Making The Band is the best fucking show on TV!!!I love this this trainwreck of a progam. I swear I do! I watch it glued to the screen and calling my best friend during commercials for running commentary. And this weeks episode did not disappoint.



First lets start with Q and the damn text message. Since when does "were moving on with or without you" mean that they trying to kick you out the group? If anything that message says that the decision is yours and either you get with the program or watch the group go on without you. He was so fucking immature here. He's the youngest dude in the group and it shows!



And then Q gone pout like a little bitch!!! I was looking at that mess like "Are you fucking serious?" But this was the kicker... " I don't have any problem with Day26. Day26 has a problem with Q...and I have the text messages to prove it". *Cough* Punk Bitch *Cough*



Okay this is where Q flips the script like ain't shit wrong. When he came in like "why is everyone so upset?" that shit pissed me off, like they just wasn't fighting in the damn lobby like 5 minutes before. THE BITCH ASS QUOTE OF THE WEEK- "I don't have a problem with you guys...what's the problem...you guys are getting mad and slapping your hands...Q doesn't have a problem". This bitchass quote sparked Will to give the realest moment of the whole video. 3:44 - 4:06 is the best...Will get real on Q's ass! But the most insightful part happens when Q accuses the rest of the group of setting him up. What kind of paranoid shit is that? And his lil crying spell and accusing Mike of not taking up from him, like he a fucking little kid!!! I admit...I was ready for somebody to knock Q in his mouth! But when Robert call's Q Aubrey, that was priceless!




So...initially I was'nt a big Dawn fan. When Q just started to actin a fool, I started to think we may be seeing a little Yoko revisited, but this chick was spitting mad knowledge on these fools. You can't argue with experience and this is her expertise. She witnessed a group self destruct from the inside.




Diddy punks them! No more commentary necessary.

OMG I love this show!!! Why do I love this mess so much? I've been thinking about it, and this is what I came up with. This is the Day26/Making the Band allure...they have a homo erotic appeal. I'll explain! Some think that some of the members in the group are gay and initially I was on this gay bandwagon, but I'm over it now. I don't think any of the members are gay. I think we want them to be gay! I know you giving me the side eye! But peep this...watching MTB is like watching gay porn. It's primal, it's aggressive...yet at any moment you think, somebody's going to kiss! Like when Q comes to his senses and comes back in the room and he apologizes to Will and they all crying and thangs, and then they hug! Wouldn't that scene been better if Will just grabbed Q and planted a sloppy wet one on him? I'm just saying! Just think about it. Who watches Making The Band? Women and gay men! And who watches gay porn? Women and gay men! Gotcha thinking don't I? I can't wait to next week! I have'nt been this excited about Thursday TV programming since The Cosby Show followed by A Different World!

TIME OUT- Let Me Regulate!

In my 32 years of living on this earth, you know where I've found some of the most mean, hostile and hypocritical people I've ever met? CHURCH! Yes I said it...Church! Church folks will cuss you out in a minute and do it in the name of the lawd! Will call you all out ya name and then tell you they praying for you! And then they wonder why more folks are not coming to church. I consider myself to be a christian, although I don't attend church regularly, and I cuss like a sailor on leave. But to me Christianity has nothing to do with going to church like many church folks think. Christianity just means being more Christ like! If you read the bible, Jesus was never mean or hostile with others, even when they were to him. He never even said a word to those who would persecute him. If you call yourself a Christian, I think the best way to be like Christ is to be kind and loving like him, even in the face of hostility. I got a feeling that some church folks are gonna find out too late that it wasn't all the praying, and so called piety that earned them their way into heaven, but just the mere act of being unkind is what lost their souls.

So with that said, in light of yesterday's controversy, let me do some housekeeping. Attacking someones race, nationality, sex, or sexuality on this blog (via comments) is uncalled for and unacceptable. I will also not tolerate name calling even if you follow it with an "I'll pray for you". It's insulting and hypocritical. And lastly, if your comment is longer than the actual blog post itself then it is entirely too long, and if you have that much to say either channel it into your own blog, or send it to me via an email.

When I go to othe sites or other blogs I make it my point to be respectful and courteous and above all kind to not only the blogger but also to the patrons of that site, because they are an extension of that blogger. And as for this blog, the patrons of my site are all my friends. And I don't take kindly to others talking about my friends, even from a friend.

I love you and God loves you. Let's just be more loving to each other from now on.

THROWBACK THURSDAY VIDEO - One Hit Wonders Edition

All this week, VH-1 has taken a break from hooking up hoochies with has been celebrities to countdown the Top 100 One Hit Wonders of the 80's. And I have been in heaven, cuz I'm such an 80's baby. So here's a few of the freshest videos from the dopest decade. Enjoy!

Real Talk- Holding On To Resentment

I was driving home from work tonight, talking to one of my best friends on the phone. We were discussing issues, or to be specific the issue that is my mother. My mother, who I like to describe as a force of nature. She's a tornado, a hurricane, and typhoon all I one, and growing up with this kind of energy has been difficult to say the least. Needless to say I've developed a shit load of resentments regarding her. So I was discussing one of these resentments with my friend on my drive home and she said to me "D you need to let that go...You're not hurting her by holding on to it...You're just hurting yourself." And in my heart I already know this, but I told my friend "We'll I'm not ready to let it go yet!" Had a little attitude too, and I had the nerve to tell my friend I'd call her back. Something I tend to do when I know she's right and I'm wrong.

My response to her got me to thinking, why am I holding on to this? Why can't I just let it go? And when I honestly think about it, just being brutally honest with myself, it's because it allows me to play the victim, the wounded party, the person you wronged! We assume different roles in each of our relationships with others, and I'm realizing that in my relationship with my mother, I've allowed myself to play the victim. The beauty in being the victim is that you don't have to take responsibility for how your life turns out. I'm this, because you did or didn't do that, which is a cop out!

So how do I stop? Shit if I know! It was only a 40 minute drive. I guess recognizing that it's a problem is the first step. What I do after that? Who knows! But introspection is a powerful tool to living a more authentic and self actualized life. I'll share more, when more comes to me!

Someone once described resentment to me like this. You drank the poison, but you waiting on them to die.

Someone For Everyone?

I was talking with some friends a few days ago, and like most of our conversations, the subject of love and relationships was the topic du jour. My friend Kaiwan asked the question "Do you think there is someone for everyone?" There was a quick pause, and you could almost hear everyone’s brains pondering this question. Then Tam said, "Dani why don't you take this one". And I have a good idea why she directed the conversation to me. Unfortunately women of a certain age, of which I and Tam fall into, know the answer to this question all too well. And I don't want to come off like a single bitter sister, because I'm not necessarily bitter, at least not anymore. But for older women, especially black women, we've already come to terms with the fact that statistically there isn't someone for everyone.

The fact is 45% of black women are single and never been married, compared to 23% of our white counterparts. For black women of a certain education level the odds are equally not in our favor when it comes to getting married. For black women the more education you have the less likely you are to get married. So smart women are less desirable? Yeah this one shocked me to, but I guess it shouldn't because I see it in my own family. My female cousins without college degrees are married, and I and my cousins with degrees are single. So...black men don't want to marry educated black women? That's a question for whole other blog!

So the fact remains...a woman like me...black, educated, independent, intelligent, sophisticated, cultured, and completely fabulous, probably will never marry. And people wonder why black women have an attitude. So I and Tam are left with just a few options. Do we resign ourselves to our lonely fates, or do we seek companionship outside our race? Black men have been exercising their options to date other races for years. Much to many a black woman’s chagrin.

As for me...Daniealle...what I feel today....subject to change at any time...is that I don't really see me dating any other race. I don't know...maybe this type of thinking is why I'm single. I've always said that I was open to dating outside my race, but honestly I've never seriously pursued it. I’m not one of those people…the ones who say they don’t even see color. We’ll I see color…bold and vivid color. I admit it, I have some racial hang ups. Once again...another topic for another blog!

So I guess that leaves me alone. And just a few years ago that very thought would send me into a depression. But the older I get the more comfortable I'm becoming with myself. I kinda like me now, and although I'd love to have someone to share my life with, it's not my end all goal. I'm fine with being single...not happy...not completely content...but fine...far from bitter...but fine. Hey it took me a couple of years and lots of therapy to get to fine...SO LEAVE ME ALONE!!!

Ask Dani

Problems with your relationship? Family? Job? Are you sick of the people around you telling you what they think you want to hear? Do you want the truth? Well you can't handle the truth!!!! Oh...you can? We'll I'm going to give you the truth. Just send me an email detailing your dilemma, and I'll give you my honest opinion, and I'll post the questions and my response every week. I don't profess to have all the answers, but I will give you my sincere and honest view...uncensored and unapologetic. So you want my two cents regarding your problems? Well, ask Dani!!!

All questions should be sent to TriplevowelsTwoCents@gmail.com

5 Questions

1. Are you currently in love?

2. If you could swap lives with one of your friends, would you?

3. Have you ever bought an article of clothing, wore it, and then returned it?

4. Would you say that you have a good relationship with your parents?

5. Are you currently dealing with a serious addiction?

Im BACK!!!

I see you giving me the side eye! I'm sure you're saying to yourself, "Heffa, how you going to have a blog for less than 2 weeks and then take a 2 week break". And I can explain. See...ummmm....what had happened was. LOL! No...for real here's the thing, or as my good friend Porcelain would say "Bitch, here's the tea!"

So during my little break, I took a little trip to New York. Met up with my friends Sunny, Robyn and the aforementioned Porcelain for an extended weekend. While in NYC we had the opportunity to meet and party with someone we all adored, vlogger/blogger B. Scott. Wait...you don't know who B. Scott eeeaahhh? Oh no ma'am. Check out this video, then immediately go to www.youtube.com/user/lovebscott and subscribe to his channel! Like right now...for real!!!



Okay now that that's taken care of, back to trip to New York. So while in NYC, we attended B's 28Th birthday party, which was soooooo splendiferous!!! And for the record he is as down to earth and cool and funny as he appears in his videos.


So, I'm sure as you can see, I had an amazing time in NYC. So after that I had to come home and get back on my grind, cuz being fabulous and things in NYC is not cheap! So I had to get back to work. So the reason I haven't been blogging is because I've been working. We'll to be honest work is like 50% of the reason, the other 50% I guess I can attribute to laziness!

And I had every intention to continue my hiatus through the weekend and start posting on Monday, but something has gotten me all types of agitated so I had to come back and rant about it. And what is this fuckery that has cured me of my loafing ways. It is the trumfoolery that Diddy has inflicted on the viewing public...Making The Band!!!!

Are these not the most crying, emotional and sensitive group of youths you ever did see? I'm watching last nite like many people, completely confused. Why are they fighting? Why is Q shouting at their manager? Why is Brian jumping all around like a toy poodle that has to pee? And why the fuck is Robert walking down the damn street crying? And why am I watching this mess? Like for real? I guess the pressure of working for Diddy makes folk loose they mind and self destruct. Can you say Danity Kane? I'm just saying. Some are speculating that maybe it's sexual tension amongst the members that's causing the problem. Well...it would explain alot. And will someone please tell Q to give Sallie Jessy Raphael her glasses back!





This bitchassednesss!!! So with very little hesitation, this weeks Travy Award, for their contribution to field of DTM and complete and utter foolishness goes to Day26! Congratulations guys! Don't have a grammy, but you now have a Travy!!!